Rediscovered the art of writing

I have always wanted to write a personal blog about the entertainment scene. i used to cover that scene but not anymore. I guess I missed all the human interest stories, all the events which made my life as an entertainment journalist special and interesting.. And I have been thinking about creating a blog to write about some of these events myself, but nothing seems to ring a bell until this evening, when I have got a brilliant idea. It is called True Entertainment. Yes i have decided to use this title as the name for my blog. Sometimes it just take the right words to keep everything in focused. Why I came out with the idea? is because I believe there is more to entertainment than just reporting what happened to whom, and when. It is about giving your honest feedback and look at some of the interesting spillover effects of the what, where and how and not always to glaze over it. In other words just report the truth. Make it serious entertainment if you like. But it gives an alternative account to what happens out there. Why? I think too many entertainment stories and column are either too gossipy or lengthy and fail to deliver the story as it is. I’d rather read a reaction piece. Because there are many truths we can learnt from it as well, not only to be tickled, and entertained to get value

Trying to be

I had another powerful insight about Rocky just now. I was driving back to office after dinner when I was hit b a realisation that Rocky was not trying to do, but he was trying to be. I realised Rocky’s achievement came not from what he did, but by what he believed and his daring to become a bigger person. That was the real challenge. And for him to be this bigger person he first had to start by reclaiming the space to be – to create the foundation for this new character to exist and to stand on. You see, Rocky had a feeling, an awareness and a belief. He already knew deep inside who he could become, even though he has not crossed the bridge yet. So all the training, all the hard work was not about doing, but it was about expanding the foundation of his inner being to allow a greater person inside to stand out. Rocky’s determination and preparation was to usher in a larger reality to his life, which is his greatest challenge of all. It starts by first believing you are more, and bigger than that. Then only did he start training furiously. But throughout the journey, it was never the success of brute force, but rather the triumph of the human spirit because he underwent a spiritual journey of change and transformation. So it is not about working hard, doing more of the same but, believing you are a bigger person in life who deserve better, and you are surrounded by resources that will enrich your life. Life is a process of becoming and being.

You can do anything

Our daily life seems to be interjected with a series of hiccups. This cannot be, that cannot be. We are living with too many nos, we don’t even know what is the source of the resistance but we live with it like an automated response. For example I found the camera lens on my mobile phone to be dirty. I really wanted to get it cleaned, but i didn’t have the tools. Then i thought why not roll some tissue paper and twist it in the hole to remove the dust and grime. Then suddenly an inner voice stopped me, you can’t do that. I paused and thought for awhile, and answered why not? Before proceeding with my own method of doing the job. Just because you have not seen or heard others doing it first, does not mean you can’t. Just because there is no way, does not mean you cannot create a way. And just because you have never found another way of earning a living does not mean, money does not exist through other channels except your own. All of us have so many preconceived ideas embedded in our subconscious mind. Turnaround… imagine a person sitting on a chair, slowly turning his head to the left, not seeing things the way they are, but with a slightly greater awareness of what it could be. That is the breakthrough in increasing your space to be.

Space to be

This is an important point that is often overlooked. You want to do many things, but you can’t seem to get started. You don’t know why. Then you realised the past conditioning where you are brought up did not allow you any space for action or self-expression. All your life you have been impacted by your dad’s indifference or your mom’s reluctance. When you were young, nobody listened to you, so you felt lonely and dejected. You were lost. And you were determined to change all that. And unconsciously you grow up to become a resigned and cynical person. In order to be a good child, you allowed yourself to be controlled by the whim and fancy of others eventhough your felt your personal space intruded upon. you felt ashamed and incomplete, and powerless as the two main characters you grew up with dominated your life, denying you the satisfaction of your own personal well-being. And you don’t even realise why you encountered so much inner resistance whenever you wanted to do something good for your own. It is like a devil within, a self-saboteur that will ruin you opportunities and relationships time and again. And for years you felt lost, confused, defenseless, and you do not know why. Then one day while driving to work in your battered car, you realise your outlook in life has been shaped by your dad and mom’s behaviour which you have resisted when young. In short, you do not have your own space to be. You are now living, and reacting to life through their eyes. And you don’t really live your own life. Then you realise you have no space to be, all their unhappiness and sadness in life were channelled to you unconsciously. And you have been living against it. So as part of them is in you and you are against it. The outcome is that you don’t have no space to be at all. In fact like they say, you have not even arrived. Think for a second. all the good qualities you embrace, all that you ever wanted to be, all the attributes that will make you a strong and an effective person have not been expressed until now because you have been living in their shadows and the constraints of their outlook. You’ve got to regain back the space. Urgently. How? Stop doing what you do. Be still. Create a space for yourself. Enjoy that space. Go back and just watch TV. Give yourself a treat. Buy yourself a good dinner. Be with good company. Just relax and enjoy the stars. And then imagine you are the star in your own soccer league, you now have the ball at your feet, and you can take it wherever you want. But this playing field belongs to you and no one else. Start by reclaiming back your space little by little. You cannot build your house until you have cleared the land. Remember this is your life. You need to find your own space to grow and do the things you like.

Establish your strengths

If you ever felt powerless or incomplete is because you have not established your strengths. If you deliver a punch halfway, will it work? No. Ask yourself have you been living your life in weakness controlled by other’s people whims, opinions, and decisions, or your own? Visualise this a martial artist clenching his fist, in ready position, in a confident stance with both arms slightly lifted in a curve for energy to flow through. You are strong because you establish your strengths, not your weaknesses. Use your skill. Use your knowledge. USE YOUR ADVANTAGE. If you are a step ahead, move the next step. Do what you are good at. If you are good at writing inspirational articles and then do so. If you are good at analytical thinking then do that. If you are good at organizing then do that. If you are good with computers then do that. If you are good at delivering a speech then do that. Once you have gained confidence at doing what you do best, and you know yourself then nobody can push you around. And you will be making good progress because it works to your advantage. You are able to leverage your strength and ability surpass the limitations around you. I cannot overemphasize this point. When you do the right thing and you do right, there will always be a sense of fulfillment and a good feeling shining through which reminds you, you are on the right path.

Turn on the lights

Life is very simple. It is just like a set of switches. If you turn off the switches then it will be dark, if you turn it on then it would be bright. There is no mystery to it. It’s simple logic. Everybody has got positive attributes, but if you always turn off your lights – that means you deny yourself, deject yourself and deprive yourself of a sense of completion or self-satisfaction, then you will always live in darkness. Each switch represents your positive strength and ability. Do you always deny yourself, do you always doubt yourself, do you aways shortchange yourself, then you are virtually turning off your switches. no wonder you are living in darkness. Your ideas, talent, resources, opportunities are like life switches that will turn on the light to brighthen your life. You know that. But if you always turn off your own lights, or you let other people do that, you will be sad, troubled, depressed and unhappy. Instead turn on your lights by doing what you love and sticking to it until you reach a stage of completion, until you see some results and improvements that will spur you onto higher ground. So Go For It!

Don’t live your life taking punches

Put it this way, nobody likes to take punches. But the reason why people do, is because they feel helpless and powerless deep inside. They feel they have no power over the circumstances, so they just suffer whatever outcome and result that comes their way. In a victim mindset and mentality, they expect the worst and welcomes it, because they believe they have no other alternative, so they put their weaknesses ahead instead of their best foot forward. So everytime they get punched, they will ask themselves why me again? And the answer that comes naturally is because I deserve it. But look at it in a third party perspective, do you have to wait for the punch to come an inch to your face, before you decide to intercept or intervene? No, you could have reacted a mile before it comes near you. You could have stepped up and fight back, before the assault comes anywhere near you. In fact you will not let it come within your personal space at all. We all have got weaknesses and strengths, but you have got to protect your weaknesses and use your strength. Not the other way round. That is the secret to power and confidence. That’s the way to get ahead, and win. If you fight back it will make you look like a hero, if you suffer and complaint. It makes you a coward. Who do you want to be? So you been living your life like a hero or a coward? Don’t spend the rest of your life taking and avoiding punches. Look at yourself from outside the box. What kind of person do you want to be, and see how you can protect yourself and fight back courageously. If you don’t who will. Think about it.

A sense of completion

It doesn’t take a lot to get to where you want to go, if you are in the right frame of mind, and condition. And how does this happen? Life happens naturally when you know you are in control and not being controlled by others. A lot of times, we have allowed things, circumstance and people to control our lives. And we felt helpless as a result. It is like not knowing your left hand from the right hand. As a child we seek approval and validation, and we wait for orders when we already know what we want. What if people continue to treat you like a child even as an adult? How would you feel? In a disempowered state, we wait for things to happen instead of making things happen. And worst of all we allow things to happen to us, than to take control of our lives. A sense of completion can happen as simply as when you say something, you want to be heard and understood, and not always having the conversation diverted to something else. So there is no feeling of completion or satisfaction in your life. Look at your home, your car, your office table. Is it always in a state of mess. What is the source of that? Are you always being late for appointments? Do you miss the opportunities in front of you. You always wanted to make a difference but you do the wrong things to sabotage yourself over and over again. Know that it stems from a feeling of incompletion already programmed deep inside, which seek to create more of the same. What you need to do is to seek completion in your task, in keeping your word. In doing one thing right, before you attempt to do 10 other things. Completion gives one a sense of power and control in your life. You tend to look for things that will support you rather than tear you apart. By being complete with yourself, everything else will fall into place. Be complete today.

Have you ever felt lost?

Have you felt disempowered, lost, and confused. Seeing the road ahead and yet cannot take it. Having all the qualities and attributes of success and yet you cannot get to where you want to be? Knowing your true potential and not being able to make the most of your life. Most of all living in fear and procrastination. Living in shame and confusion? This is the worst torture anybody can go through in life… to be crippled, as though your hands are tied behind your back, as though you are blinded or your legs chopped of so you cannot go where you want to go. What is the source of all that? It is a feeling of incompletion that means you feel something was not right in your life, and you never allow something to be right. You know you have ample time to finish the work to impress the boss. Instead you wait until the last minute to screw it up.. so that you will fail again, and struggle, being lost and confused instead of climbing onto higher ground. There is a chance for you to be happy, but you screw it up too… In fact your whole life you have been screwing everything up with people, money, resources, talent and time just so that you can reproduce that sense of incompletion which you felt as a child, when your favourite toy gun was snatched away from you and kept somewhere you will never find it again. How will all these experience impact your life or anyone’s life? Will you have the power of self-confidence and self-expression? Or will you keep repeating the mistakes to validate your fear and failure and continue to play the role of a victim.

A man of a 1000 ideas

If Rambo is a man of a 1000 skillls, I am a man of a 1000 ideas. Yes. And ironically, that was one of the reasons I did not write so often, not because I was lack of ideas but because I had too many ideas all waiting to be expressed and struggling to be said at the same time. And I kind of felt guilty to let many these ideas fall by the wayside, when I should have nurtured it and store it by just writing about it. But I am glad to say I am going to resume my good old writing habit of filling in this blog. This blog has been semi-neglected since February this year, but it is now time to do the right thing to reactivate it and to write from my heart everytime I am inspired and as often as i can. Usually when I write I will write more than one post, because I have a lot of blazing ideas coming through, as tonight.
So welcome me home as I fill up this space with more poignant throughts and ideas from my Real Rocky challenge. Let me populate this blog once again with no reservations and no regrets.